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Everyone hates modern dating. People blame dating apps. But is technology the only thing to blame? Past generations

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made the short-sighted choice to abandon the traditions and customs that used to govern romantic interaction and

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matchmaking. Instead, now we have open dating. In theory, it's freedom. Anyone

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can go up to anyone else anywhere and try to get a date. In practice, it makes people hate each other. But if you don't

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hate me, you should consider subscribing. It helps the channel.

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You're probably familiar with why men don't like this system. They're the ones expected to go up to strange women with little to no vetting, ask them out, and

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more likely than not, get rejected several times before finally going on a date with someone who might not even

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share their values. It's an introverts nightmare and effort with minimal reward. Dating apps haven't changed this

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dynamic. It's the same just magnified a hundfold. Some men are envious of women's roles in modern dating. After all, they just get to sit back and pick.

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But have you considered what open dating actually means for women? Since any man anywhere could ask any woman out at any

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time, that means if a man isn't showing interest in you in that instant, then he's perceived as rejecting you. When

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single men are tired of the psychological toll of rejection, they can simply take a break and try again in the future. When single women are tired

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of feeling rejected, there isn't an off switch. The absence of an interaction registers as rejection. And with phones

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and social media, a man could reach out to her at any time of the day. So even avoiding men isn't a way to avoid

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rejection by men. Men feel antagonized when they are actively rejected by a woman after initiating an interaction.

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But women feel antagonized just by men existing, especially if he's asking out other women. This setup guarantees

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resentment. And what do some women do to offset those feelings of chronic rejection? They pursue attention,

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perhaps by dressing in immodest ways or posting more revealing content on the internet. Since society abandoned tradition, there are no guard rails

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against immodesty. In doing so, she will get more male attention, but not the kind she wants. Lust will replace

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genuine interest. The results are an unfortunate feedback loop. Healthy men do not appreciate the modesty leading to

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increased rejection leading to increased attention-seeking behavior leading to an increased and lustful attention and therefore a decrease in the quality of

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men. In time, all interactions with men become negative. Higher quality men stay far away. Meanwhile, men of lesser

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character make themselves abundant. This is a painful situation to be in and damning to a woman's self-esteem. To

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lessen psychological pain, there is a convenient lie a woman can tell herself.

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All men are like this. Since the good men seem to avoid her, it's easy to generalize from the pool that remains.

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often those lacking self-control or respect. The upside, no need to acknowledge the painful reality. Just

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blame it on all men being trash. The downside, missry. And this lie is particularly easy to believe if she

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never had good male role models. And since these women vote, you will see their dissatisfaction reflected in

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policy, often by turning the state into a makeshift husband, further contributing to the gender divide in

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politics. Unfortunately, there is no easy fix. It's always been the responsibility of the older generations

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to set up and enforce tradition surrounding this. A young individual can't do much. You can follow the best

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system for relationships perfectly designed for the human condition, but social conventions followed by just one

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person don't work. In the cultural power vacuum left behind by the church and other social institutions, Hollywood

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fantasies and social media have taken over, resulting in a culture of naive hedonism and builtup resentment. Should

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we be surprised then that in the age of sexual freedom, we have become the loneliest generation in history?